Saturday, June 4, 2011
The No-Cry Discipline Solution by Elizabeth Pantley
Elizabeth Pantley gives parents practical and specific advice for raising well-behaved children from ages 2 through 8, showing them how to deal with behaviors such as tantrums, kicking, hair pulling, whining, back-talking, and swearing. She schools the reader in gentle ways to encourage good behavior.
“Pantley is a loving realist, who has managed… to give disciplinarianism a good, warm name.” –Kirkus
“It had some great general sections about how to engage/communicate with kids as well as handle anger.” –reader
“This book really uplifts parents with positive messages. It always makes me feel like a better mom to read a few pages when I’m feeling down about my parenting.” –reader
“I think the best learning from this was the fact that the things we get stressed out about are things that really don’t matter in the long run.” –reader
Here are some other resources on the subject of discipline:
Discipline Without Shouting or Spanking – Practical solutions to the most common preschool behavior problems – by Wyckoff and Unell
Discipline Without Tears – What to do with children who misbehave – by Dreikurs and Cassel
How to Discipline Kids without Losing Their Love and Respect – An introduction to Love &Logic – by Jim Fay
Smart Love – The compassionate alternative to discipline that will make you a better parent and your child a better person – by Heineman-Pieper and Pieper
The Strong-Willed Child – Birth through adolescence – by Dr. Dobson
The NWHMOM Library Inventory can be found in the “Files” section of the NWHMOM Yahoo group. Please send me an e-mail if you would like to borrow a book or if you have any questions. We lend books month-to-month, but I’m known to grant extensions if the word “chocolate” is mentioned…
Dottie L., NWHMOM Librarian
Wednesday, May 4, 2011
We were pleased to see lots of members and non members set up there stuff bright and early… 5:30 am to be exact. The tables and racks went up and all were ready for those early shoppers that started arriving before 7 am. Though the weather was a bit yucky in the early hours the weather quickly changed and there was plenty of sunshine. There was so much to browse through and so much to choose from. Lots of us sellers were shopping before everything was set up. I personally came home with tons of gently used toys and clothing for my Duo. It was also nice to see lots of members come out to support our sellers. It seems that this function is great for both the Buyers and the Sellers.
The Northwest Houston Moms of Multiples holds 2 buy/sells a year once in the spring usually at the end of March or beginning of April then again in the fall usually at the end of September or early October. We do charge a small fee to participate ($15 for non-members and $8 for members) and this is used for signs and anything else that we need to promote the event. If you are interested in participating or need more information contact Laura @ firstname.lastname@example.org or Cita @ email@example.com.
Monday, May 2, 2011
The Happiest Baby on the Block (The new way to calm crying and help your newborn baby sleep longer) by Harvey Karp, M.D.
This book includes great tips on how to properly soothe and swaddle an infant, and even addresses how to re-create the womblike atmosphere your newborn baby still yearns for, outside the womb.
On Becoming Baby Wise (Giving your infant the gift of nighttime sleep) by Gary Ezzo, M.A. and Robert Bucknam, M.D.
“Babywise is an exciting infant management plan that successfully and naturally helps infants synchronize their feeding, waketime and nighttime sleep cycles.”
The No-Cry Sleep Solution (Gentle ways to help your baby sleep through the night) by Elizabeth Pantley
“Showing you how to analyze, assess, and improve your baby’s sleep patterns using sleep logs.”
The No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers (Gentle ways to stop bedtime battles and improve your child’s sleep) by Elizabeth Pantley
Covers a wide variety of topics including moving a child out of the crib and into a big bed; ending the all-night breastfeeding routine; stopping nighttime visits to your bed; handling naptime problems; and nightmares, separation anxiety, and fears.
Break the Co-Sleeping Habit (How to set bedtime boundaries- and raise a secure, happy, well-adjusted child) by Valerie Levine, Ph.D.
This book helps you deal with breaking a habit that parents don’t know how to break, even addressing pre-teens and teens and dealing with special situations such as divorce.
Dottie, NWHMOM Librarian
Thursday, March 31, 2011
Linus is a beautiful almost 6 month old, 1 of a set of triplets. He was unfortunately born w/ a congenital heart defect (CHD) & has been struggling for his life, especially as of late.
MoMs bond b/c we know the trials that come along w/ having multiples & several have had to fight some type of health issue w/ one or all of their children due to prematurity, etc. For Linus, it had nothing to do w/ being a preemie. His poor heart is broken.
Now, imagine this. 2 mommies loving every minute of having 3 new sons but one is ill & has spent quite a bit of time in the hospital. These 2 ladies barely spend time together, struggling to survive the road that has been chosen for them.
If you can, please help! Team Linus is on Facebook. Read along & join in the online silent auction.
Want to know more about Linus & his brothers, go on & read all about the family at A Story of Two Moms.
Let's support another MoM in the struggle to keep their beautiful son alive!
Sunday, June 6, 2010
These are tricks of the trade that us MoMs decided to pass along to those in the midst of figuring out what life w/ multiples is going to be like.
Submitted by Mona S.
I learned this one from my wonderful MIL who had 4 kids under 6. I cut almost all of the twins' food such as meat, pizza, with a scissors (the ones from the dollar store work great). It takes half the time as using a knife. I even carry two in my purse for when we go out to eat. My husband cuts up the food for one twin and I do the other. Just make sure there are no little fingers trying to grab any food off of the plate you are cutting from.
Here's one more. When I had my double stroller (a Graco Duo Glider) I washed it at a car wash. I used the power washer wand at the car wash and it came out great. Just make sure the brake is on. No need to unsnap anything! Mine turned out so good I wished I had brought the ArmorAll along for the tires.
Submitted by Astrid N.
Ditch the high chairs all together! A feeding table makes life so much easier. Cleaning 1 table as opposed to 3 high chairs & all their parts, is a huge time saver. Not only do the kids eat here, they color, read book, & other craft activities keeping them in their seats. My husband made ours for a fraction of the cost of ordering one.
Submitted by Melanie V.
I recommend feeding naked babies. I suggest feeding them at the same time if they are not easily distractible but if they are then have them facing opposite directions. Feeding them can be a really messy pain. Much easier/faster cleanup.
Submitted by Toni H.
Post a list of emergency numbers in your house by the fridge- We keep our work numbers, our cell numbers, our in-laws numbers, babysitters numbers, neighbors' numbers, pediatrician office numbers, poison control, etc. all on one page and it is always in the same spot for easy use (by anyone).
Submitted by many different MoMs
Keep the diaper bag stocked.
Keep your cell phone charged.
Keep medicine box filled and up to date. Have one for the car and one for home.
Have a list of emergency go-to people and contact numbers.
Have 24 hour pharmacy number available.
Know where the closest 24 hour store is located.
Always have diapers and wipes stocked up.
Put family first - the phone and computer can wait
When going out- plan an extra 10 minutes for the unknown
When in doubt give lots of hugs and kisses
Friday, May 28, 2010
Separating multiples written by Sara B.
It's important to recognize our multiples/twins as one, after all from day one they been together. As they develop and grow their own personalities and independence. It is also important to recognize our multiples/twins as individuals too. We can encourage that by separating them at preschool, if it is just by a few tables or perhaps a class! Here they can develop their own interests, skills, language, friendships and abilities.
Initially we felt we wanted out twins to be together. After much discussion with teachers, friends, other multiple/twin families, a week before school, we opted to separate them. Both are very eager to tell me about "their" day, and talk to each other about what they did too.
We couldn’t have made a better choice. Both are thriving, enjoying making independent choices, happy, still seeing each other yet learning while they are a twin, they are also individuals.
Not to separate written by Elizabeth D.
When our fraternal twin girls began preschool three years ago, we chose to keep them together. Although they play with other classmates, they find comfort in seeing their sister in the room. During teacher conferences, I always ask how they are getting along and how the teacher perceives their relationship. So far, the three teachers have had no issues and continue to recommend keeping the girls in the same class.
It is certainly easier on me too. I only have to keep up with one calendar for things like show and tell and snacks and can easily attend the class parties without having to split my time. We have been pleased with our choice.
Saturday, July 18, 2009
8 x 3 = 24
24 kids ranging from 6.5 months old to 27 months old. Oh. My. God.
The experience was incredible & for just a couple of hours, I felt like every other SAH mommy out there that goes to playgroups on a regular basis. Just call this one super sized. The playgroup started at about 9:30 & ended by 12:30. Just about 10:30, we had everyone in the house at the same time. Chaotic is a good way to describe it BUT fun & enjoyable! Sure, we had a couple of baby meltdowns but not enough to drive anyone to the brink of insanity. I think maybe next time I will serve wine instead of coffee, LOL!
The mommies that came were Carrie (Emma, Elizabeth, & Emily), Lynn (Tommy, Tabitha, & Zoe), Anna (Hudson, Tobin, & Skyler), Susan (Ava, Mia, & Andrew), Jennifer (Mollie, Elise, & Preston), Kerra (Hannah, Aiden, & Olivia), and Marie (Ava, Trevor, & Chloe) as well as ourselves.
There were only 3 sets of triplets at this moment.
Miss Lynn watching the babes play.
One of the triplets from the oldest set & the 3 from the youngest set together.
Kerra surrounded by babies!
Kerra's diaper bag was being enjoyed by many, especially Gabi & Ian.
These last 2 pictures show just how crowded it got in the living room! This was when all 24 kids were here along w/ 9 adults!
This is the real life of a mother of triplets.
Monday, June 29, 2009
Summer is here, and with the hustle and bustle of outdoor activities, social events and family vacations, it’s no wonder we sometimes forget our basic needs like plucking our eyebrows ; (. As we navigate through these events I urge us to keep in mind one very important theme. YOURSELF.
As moms and specially mothers of multiples, we are givers and providers and can tend to leave ourselves last on the priority list. I want us to reflect and think about one activity that belongs to US and US only. Last week there was an article (Yahoo) about a longitudinal study on happiness, it was a 70+ year old study done on Harvard sophomores that traced characteristics of happiness, they found three:
- Have your own outlet (an activity or interest that belongs to you alone)
- Don’t take yourself too seriously (sense of humor played a major role in the study)
- Happiness must be shared (although it entails a lot of work to share your life with a partner, the outcome is fully beneficial, even leads to longevity)
Number one for me is a must, having not had my own outlet when I had my first child, I really entered into a mini crisis as he got older and my identity was no longer main mommy role. Also, for our general happiness and sanity, I think all individuals need something that belongs to them alone. So this week make it a goal to reinvent or rediscover something about yourself and commit to something that belongs to you alone. here are some tips:
- Try something new, something you always wanted to do but didn’t think you could (tennis, crochet, painting, singing etc)
- Look up bible studies or groups in your local church
- Consider dancing, it’s fun and great cardio, therapeutic and can be enjoyed with partner
- Consider a sport even if you are not sporty
- Consider volunteering (most churches provide childcare for this)
- Look up free classes at the local community college
- Be part of a group
- Join a gym
- Write a blog,
- You have a gift for craft? Start selling it on the internet (Yahoo small business)
- Join a book club
I know some of us have girls night and those are super fun, but it should be an activity that you can participate in regularly, at least once a week, one that your spouse or children are not obligated to attend and something that belongs to you or your interests.
Good luck ladies and God Bless!
Sunday, June 28, 2009
The 2 girls were both triplets. Get this, they weren't from the SAME group of triplet siblings either. They were both from DIFFERENT SETS! Each girl had 2 brothers in their sets, the opposite of what we have. They were so excited to meet the kids & we were excited to meet not 1 but 2 girls from different sets.
Turns out that the big group of kids sitting on the lawn were celebrating that they were now high school freshmen. How cute! The girls are 14 yrs old & I wish I had listened better to what their names were. DARN! Oddly enough, as we were sitting there talking to them, one of the moms pulled up in her car. I do remember her name, Barbara. She not only had her trips which were her 1st set of kids but she also had 2 more singletons after the fact.
We ended up talking to her for a good 10 minutes. I gave her my contact info & am hoping to have the 2 girls come over & play w/ the kids one day, maybe go swimming all together. How fun! To top it off, both sets of triplets live in the same subdivision (have to add that our subdivision is not small).
**This entry was submitted by MOM, Astrid N.
Monday, June 15, 2009
I am hoping to get more traffic on here so please feel free to leave a comment with any questions you may have about twins, triplets, quadruplets or more! I have a few ideas up my sleeve & hope to get them out for people to read.
Thank you for taking the time out to read our blog!
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
by Susan Heim (nugget of wisdom found on her blog)
"I used to read Erma Bombeck’s columns in my mom’s Good Housekeeping magazines when I was a girl. (Please don’t look up the years.) I loved her hilarious tales of motherhood. So, I quickly handed over two quarters when I ran across a hardcover copy of her book, Motherhood: The Second Oldest Profession, at my library’s used-book sale. When I got home, I started scanning through the chapter titles, and one in particular caught my eye: “Who Are Harder to Raise—Boys or Girls?” I’ve often pondered that question myself as the mother of four sons and no daughters. When I walk into my kids’ classroom and see the little girls sitting daintily at the table coloring, while the boys are off in the corner throwing blocks at each other, I have to answer that question with “boys.” When we come out of summer camp, and I pass three little girls walking nicely with their mother to the car while my twin boys are racing each other through the parking lot, I definitely have to answer “boys.” So, imagine my shock when my beloved humorist failed to agree with me. Here’s what she wrote:
“If you want to stir up a hornet’s nest, just ask mothers, ‘Who are harder to raise—boys or girls?’ The answer will depend on whether they’re raising boys or girls. I’ve had both, so I’ll settle the argument once and for all. It’s girls.” What??? However, here is what she cited as the “benefits” of boys:
“With boys you always know where you stand. Right in the path of a hurricane. It’s all there. The fruit flies hovering over their waste can, the hamster trying to escape to cleaner air, the bedrooms decorated in Early Bus Station Restroom.” And that’s a good thing? There’s more:
“I knew of [a] mother who said, ‘Boys are honest. Whenever you yell upstairs, “What’s all that thumping about?” you get an up front reply, “Joey threw the cat down the clothes chute. It was cool.”’” So it’s okay to throw the cat down the chute as long as they’re honest about it??? I don’t know . . . I’m just not convinced yet that boys are easier.
In an About.com poll of 533 parents, however, 40% said boys are easier to raise, 34% said girls, and 24% were undecided. Again, a little too close to convince me . . .
Of course, we can’t paint all kids with the same brush based on their gender. Certainly, there are girls who are well-behaved and those who are wild. And the same goes for boys. According to Renee Bacher in her article, “Who’s Easier: Boys or Girls?” (American Baby magazine, May 2004), “The key to successful parenting, whatever your child’s gender, is to figure out what makes him tick and how to make his personality work with your own. . . . [W]hether you’re raising a male or female, there’s always more than enough difficulty to go around. So every parent should look for the joy buried in the tough stuff and run with it.” So, that’s my plan . . .
Now when my sons smear paint all over the table, I’ll joyously proclaim, “Look how creative they are!” And when they climb on top of the car and jump off in their best imitation of Superman, I’ll rejoice, “My sons are so brave!” And when they smash my brand-new Tiffany lamp that I saved for months to purchase, “I’ll . . . I’ll . . .” okay, that one would be hard to forgive. But I do agree that a good sense of humor—and a lot of prayer—can go a long way in successfully raising boys. And, yes, girls, too."
Friday, May 23, 2008
There was a huge fish tank at the back of the restuarant that the twins were very interested in, so we took them for a closer look after dinner.
A lady was there with a little girl looking also. She immediately asked me if my two were twins. I said yes they are. "Oh, I am only asking because I have twin grandsons." I smiled and nodded, with "do you really"? She moved the little girl to the other side of me, saying my two need a better look.
Anyhow, I was curious as to whether her grandsons were identical, phrasing this way as some folk really do not understand as we well know.
She looked at me, asked me to repeat myself and responded with....
"Well, they were, up until about 12. They are 16 now."
I found it so hard to keep a straight face. Hubby put a dampers on my story, when he said "oh she meant they were showing their individuality, different hair, clothes, etc" ........not the impression I got tho, shoulda been there! LOL
- Sara B.
Wednesday, May 21, 2008
For the past few months, Josh (6) has been coming home from school and telling us how he's in LOVE with a girl named Kaki, who rides the bus with him. I don't make a big deal about it, but I like to entertain the conversation enough to get his brain cranking sometimes. ;)
Then about 2 weekends ago when were were all out, Josh started this whole conversation again and Justin (6) was just NOT having it!!!
It went a little something like this....
"I'm going to marry her in a church!" - Josh
"Does SHE know you love her?" - Me
"Um....I don't know." - Josh
"Well we'll be grownups and I'm gonna kiss her... when we get married." - Josh
"That's fine, you can get married when you're grown up." - Me
"JOSH! YOU CAN'T GET MARRIED, WE'RE BROTHERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!" - Justin
I just thought that was TOO cute!!!
And it's SO Justin too... always a bit more "needy" of Josh, then Josh is of him.....
My challenge to you all is to make sure YOU are keeping track of these silly little stories because if you Mom brain is half as mushy as MINE, you'll need a note or 2 to remember this sweet moments!